How do you actually play with contracts without getting liquidated every day?

I'm not sure if you've ever had this moment—when you first entered the market, seeing others double their positions, and you have just one thought: "Why can't that be me?"

Back then, I only had 4,000 yuan. Went all in, one shot, held on to the end.
Liquidated. Tried again. Liquidated again.
Every time, I comforted myself: "Surely I'll make it back on the next trade."

But what happened? After falling into one trap, I fell into another, sinking deeper the more I struggled.

Later, I finally realized—it wasn't a matter of luck; I simply wasn't qualified to make that money. With that reckless approach, surviving at all was already lucky.

Until one day, I truly stopped and broke down every habit in my trades. It was then that I understood:
Liquidation is never an accident; it's inevitable.
So-called "risk control" is a joke if your operations lack logic and a system.

Real contract trading isn't gambling. Every entry and exit should have rhythm and reasoning.
The scariest thing isn't the market reversing, but your mindset collapsing first.

I started seriously studying Bollinger Bands.
Not just drawing a few lines at random, but truly understanding them from market depth and structure—narrowing, widening, false breakouts, pullback confirmations...
The first time I caught a 30x move with it, I didn't feel "excited," but rather relieved: "I finally get it."

But the method isn't the most crucial thing.
No matter how good your method is, if you lose control of your mindset or open positions recklessly, you'll still get liquidated.

So ask yourself a few questions:
Are you making trades based on logic, or on emotion?
Are you using a system to trade, or just gambling on the market's direction?
If you don't even set a stop-loss, are you really here to make money, or just chasing the thrill of getting liquidated?

A lot of people say they don't believe in fate, but in reality, they hand their fate to the market every day.

I make far fewer trades now, but each one is clear and clean, with risks fully understood.
That's the only way to survive and keep the snowball rolling.