After a few years of struggling in the world of contracts, I've come to understand one thing: 90% of people don’t lose to technical skills, they lose to their own unwillingness to admit defeat.

Look at those liquidation screenshots—hundreds of thousands gone in an instant. As a bystander, anyone would curse, “What an idiot.” But when it happens to yourself? You clearly set a stop-loss, but when the market moves, you think, “Let’s wait a little longer.” As for the take-profit level, you keep moving it up—greed and wishful thinking can really drag a person into the abyss.

When making money, it feels too slow, and you wish you could just go all in with 10x leverage. When losing? Even worse—frantically averaging down to lower your cost, until you get that “forced liquidation” notice and realize your account has already been wiped out.

The price might only move 1%, but your mentality can collapse by 10%. When adrenaline hits your brain, all rational analysis goes out the window, and you’re left with just one thought: I can’t lose. The more you double down, the bigger the loss, and your account becomes a funnel, money pouring out.

I’ve been burned before too.

I remember one time when I was down 30%, staring at those red numbers, and suddenly I became clear-headed—there are people at home waiting for me. I forced myself to close the app and sat on the sofa all night. The next morning, I closed my position. There was still 18% left in the account—enough to buy something useful, which is better than losing it all.

Since then, I set rules for myself: before opening a position, I think clearly, “What’s the most I can afford to lose?” Any profits earned are withdrawn the same day, and I close the trading app and return to normal life. Use a slow pace to fight fast desires—this trick works quite well.

If you’re stuck in this whirlpool right now, try lowering your leverage to 1x and run 100 trades in a demo account. You’ll find that a lot of those so-called “god-level trades” are really just lucky timing.

We’re all ordinary people, not chosen ones. It’s better to earn a steady 1% in the spot market before trying for that 1% in contracts. If you get the order wrong, life easily falls into chaos.

Don’t ruin yourself just to “break even.” True recovery is getting your mentality back on track—the kind of life where you feel the warmth of daily life and can sleep well. The market will always be there. We can take it slow.