Why do you always feel tired?

Have you ever experienced this state: despite not doing any physical work, you just feel exhausted, anxious, and even不知道自己在烦躁什么。
Today I want to talk to you about what exactly is stress, what is anxiety, and how we can truly let go of ourselves.
In fact, stress and anxiety are completely different things.
Imagine a solid iron rod. When does it bear the greatest pressure? It’s when two forces are pulling it in opposite directions at the same time. Your heart is the same. When you have two conflicting desires simultaneously, stress is born.
You want to please others but don’t want to compromise yourself; you don’t want to go to work today, but you want to make money. You are being torn apart by these two forces, and that’s the source of stress.
And what about anxiety? Anxiety is the accumulated unresolved stress points over the years, piling up into a huge mountain of garbage.
You only see the tip of the iceberg above the water, feeling “I’m so annoyed, I’m so anxious,” but you can’t find the root cause because there’s just too much mess underneath. We walk too fast in daily life, and when emotions arise, we subconsciously avoid them, with no time to stop and look at what we’re actually afraid of.
After understanding one thing, most of my anxiety disappeared: everyone is going to die, and in the end, everything will reset.
Think carefully—since you can’t take anything with you, what are you staying awake at night for?
Many people fear death, fear that one day they will disappear. But they don’t realize that when you’re sitting here, your mind is elsewhere—regretting the past, worrying about the future—you are actually “dead” to the present moment.
What exactly is wasting time? It’s not about not working or not hustling.
As long as you immerse yourself in the present, even if it’s just watching a tree or drinking a cup of tea, as long as you do it wholeheartedly, it’s not a waste of time. The real waste of time is: you’re doing something physically, but your mind is resisting, escaping, or thinking about something else. When you’re not fully present in your current reality, your life is being wasted.
Finally, when making major life decisions, should you listen to your brain or your intuition?
Remember, intuition is the ultimate decision-maker; your brain is just responsible for finding a reasonable excuse afterward. Intuition is the evolved wisdom in your genes, combined with all your life experiences. The brain is good at solving new problems with clear boundaries, but when it comes to complex life choices, it’s actually quite stupid.
Many times, you know a relationship will fail, and your intuition has been warning you wildly, but you still push forward. Why? Because “wishful thinking” masks your judgment, you want that ideal outcome too much, and desire overrides your common sense.
Having said all this, if you’re currently caught in internal conflict, I hope you immediately do these three things:
Step 1: Break down your stress
When you feel overwhelmed, take a piece of paper, honestly write down the two conflicting desires you have right now. Acknowledge their existence, then force yourself to choose one, and accept losing the other. If you can’t decide now, tell yourself “I allow myself to decide later.” Once you see the essence of the stress, the tearing feeling will be greatly reduced.
Step 2: Clear your mountain of anxiety
When you fall into unnamed anxiety, don’t just scroll your phone to escape. Sit quietly, meditate, write a journal, or talk to a friend. List out everything that might be bothering you. Is it unfinished work? Is someone making you uncomfortable? Face them directly like peeling an onion, and resolve them. Once the garbage mountain is cleared, the anxiety will naturally disappear.
Step 3: Let your intuition make difficult decisions for you
When facing major choices, don’t force yourself to decide immediately. Review the pros and cons in your mind, then learn to “sleep on it.” Give it a few days until your intuition provides a confident answer. Once your intuition is set, don’t doubt it—trust and follow it.
Life is short, every second is a limited edition. What we truly need isn’t so-called inner peace, but to free ourselves from the endless chatter of the brain.
Be a little selfish, live the life you truly want in your own way.
I hope this content can help you.